When was the last time you ‘thanked’ your toddler or growing child of any age for simply being in your life? Our parents have always made sure they reminded us of what they did for us. Whether good or bad. It has still stuck in our minds. Perhaps it was a sacrifice they made, or maybe a present they bought us, or possibly hurt us by saying, in anger, what a pain in the rear we were for giving them troubles.
As millennial parents, how can we change that and instead now talk to our little ones on what they have given us: unconditional love; twinkle and hope in their eyes; curiosity always to want to know and learn more; the happiness of just being present; smiling and living as if they have no care for the world; infinite faith in us as parents to look after them and never questioning us of their safety and security.
Nowadays, with spouses and children always home, and maybe elders, the situation seems to create anxiety, stress, and frustration. Parents who are now homeschooling their children and may have lost jobs or are struggling with their demons, seem to be unintentionally angry with the kids. I wonder what kind of verbal assaults we end up throwing on those fragile minds and hearts who have never done anything to hurt us.
I started thanking and appreciating my three-year-old for coming into my life, choosing me to be his mom, for being soo full of love and light, and he has become full of empathy.