In my early years, due to undiagnosed ADHD, I suffered from a lot of self-esteem issues. I struggled with who I was and understanding my potential. Then life threw me in an ocean of difficulties in which I did not know how to swim. However, I was always inclined towards spirituality and have tried to find answers either through The Geeta or other beautifully written articles.
Slowly I understood that I was too hard on myself for stuff that was totally out of my control. Accepting myself the way I am is the first step to any progress I can ever think of achieving. I have worked very hard on it since. And hence, slowly learned to swim in the ocean of difficulties. Self-acceptance and self-compassion is the key to any kind of real growth in life.
Whenever I feel guilty or pity, I mentally channel those feelings into a box of self-compassion, and those feelings get transformed into empowered choices, be it let go of something that cannot be changed or courage to fix what can be.