My wife and I live with my 87-year-old mother. My mother is bedridden and on oxygen support for a while now. There is 24×7 nursing required for her, and professional staff help us. My mother-in-law is in the same town and prefers to live all by herself. My wife attends to all outside work for her. My wife also works part-time while I am retired.
Recognising the support my spouse needs, I have been managing my mother’s house. Daily, right from buying vegetables, groceries, medicines to supporting the nurse in some activities, serving her food, cleaning the kitchen, paying bills and of course, attending to my mother makes a typical day for me. My spouse can attend dance classes and gets time to attend to my mother-in-law without any pressure.
At times, my spouse admonishes me when I clean the kitchen, but the truth is that the particular activity works as a therapy for me. I enjoy taking her load, and she is relaxed and gets to do what she enjoys. I am not doing any favour to her as I am pretty much at home for my mother and have time in hand every day, which is better utilised doing home management.
The time one has is best utilized in a manner that brings happiness to all.
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