You probably read the title and scrolled down, thinking it’s one of those stories about helping a friend. So here’s the catch, why do we assume a friend as someone else? Why not ourselves? Talking in the third person is such a big imperative, you cannot underrate it. We have it all inside us, the kindness, compassion and the perfect motivational triggers. We just don’t know it because we are busy reprimanding ourselves.
When a troubled friend calls up, we become the kindest, the most compassionate version of ourselves. But when the same thing happens to us, well, I don’t need to tell the difference. We all know it.
I was going through a rough patch. Everything was in tatters. Social life, family, career, and not to forget, my mind! After numerous advice and therapies, the only thing that worked was sleeping pills. I read about the third person talk somewhere and got intrigued. I tried it out and immediately felt relaxed. After a few days, it came naturally to me. I’m in a much better position now. Trust me, it’s not hard. Whenever you feel low, talk to yourself like you would to a friend. Be kind, wait for your mind to answer the third person. Maintain a frank and free flow of thought. Neither motivating it forcefully nor coaxing it into doing nothing. Just as you would ask your friend about what happened and why, ask the same of yourself, give advice and be calm. A few minutes of silence and deep introspection will keep you going through the day, and help you sleep peacefully.
The Black Lotus app had a significant role to play in my case. Meditation is the stepping stone to a sane and healthy mind, and eventually, life. Embrace your life, all the lows and the highs. Don’t forget, the next time you feel low, talk to yourself as you would to a friend 🙂
Befriend and be kind to yourself.
~ Black Lotus User