I am halfway through my oath of not raising my voice in anger, and I was feeling quite proud of myself. However, my husband brought to my notice the fact that I still get angry; it is just that I don’t express it. Here is my answer to him.
It is alright to feel anger when things don’t go your way or life has been unjust. Anger management is not about not ever feeling rage, but it is about not using that anger on those who are helpless or easy targets. Anger occurs when one feels passionately about things, and Anger Management is evaluating whether that anger is justified and then channelling it into something positive.
I get furious when sexist comments are made, and I do not miss a chance to give those responsible an earful. However, there has been no change in a single person. Now I move away from such people, and I have channelled this anger for positive things. I raise my son to treat women with respect. I teach both the children to be gender-neutral, and most importantly, I am mindful of the kind of jokes I find amusing.
Analyse your anger. Channel it in a positive manner.