Since my graduation, I was never home for more than 1 month: graduation, then job and then masters, all were away from home. During the pandemic, I returned home and stayed for over a year.
At this time, I realised that on some days, my parents get very bitter in the morning. I used to get up and find that they were fed up and angry without any specific reason, and I used to blame their mood swings.
One day I fell sick and was in bed all morning, observing what was going on with my parents. I realised that because of the same work every day, and without any appreciation or reward, some days they feel tired and demotivated and thus bitter.
When I got better, I changed two things,
1. every day, I took 2 chores in my hands, no matter how big or small. Put the garbage, wash dishes or, if nothing, I would be with them, helping with their chores.
2. I started hugging them in the morning and afterwards saying thank you whenever they had done something for me. Like making breakfast or my father helping me with exercise.
It gave them the sense of feeling that I understand and acknowledge their hard work and efforts. And I think we all need only that from other people.
Thank you, it’s not very inspiring 😅 but a small change that I felt.
We can accept other people’s feelings only by participating in their efforts.
~ Black Lotus User